Being in the kinky lifestyle come with certain changes in
personality. The Wife and I frequently discuss various topics like sex, psychology
(at least our understanding of human habits and emotions), habits etc etc. To
me not being able to speak to my life partner about anything and everything
would be a serious problem. If you can’t share these things with your partner,
then who can you share it with?
It has progressed to the stage where when a vanilla
sometimes says something, I need to stop and consider the entire situation,
what was just said and usually close my mouth in disbelief. Like this little
treasure:
“We are quite kinky
and up for most things except that one thing.”
Now in itself this isn’t really that odd. I admit that some
context is missing here, and the statement is paraphrased. But my first reaction
here was “Oh you sweet innocent child”. It might sound a bit condescending but
I that’s just the image that flashed through my mind. Then I realised that I
have no idea what “that one thing” actually is… My standard kink list is 300+
items long. I have more than a few hard limits on there and most of those items
you would need special permission for to do at Sound Barrier, never mind need
special equipment for. I’ve seen some hectic plays at SoundBarrier but most of
them are things that I would do. Perhaps not receive 50 cane strokes or a 150
needles but I have been caned and I have had needles(25 was the most I’ve had(If
I remember correctly)(Parenthesis might be bad writing style. Fix in future…)).
(Where was I ???)
So I have seen a few things that would make most Vanillas very uncomfortable and possibly cry and yet I had no idea what she could be referring to. I realised that I experience things that a lot of people cannot and I am in the very privileged position to be able to talk to my partners about it. Want to experience Waterboarding? Sure, talk to that and so and so. Have my feet licked? Can be organised. Baby-oil wrestling match? The club would have a fit…
The lifestyle has made us free to talk about and do things that the rest of society frowns upon. The point is that I do not have “That one thing” that I would absolutely not do. I am free to discuss and learn about all the wonderfully kinky things that people do and why they do it. My kinkiest kink is not the kinkiest but it might be kinkier than most and that’s fine. I do not have to hide it or go enjoy it in total secret or not fantasize because I am “sick” (the worst thing you can say to someone who shares his/her kink with you. (Besides using parenthesis in parenthesis)). I have many things that I would not do… Now… Perhaps someday I’d reconsider.
So I have seen a few things that would make most Vanillas very uncomfortable and possibly cry and yet I had no idea what she could be referring to. I realised that I experience things that a lot of people cannot and I am in the very privileged position to be able to talk to my partners about it. Want to experience Waterboarding? Sure, talk to that and so and so. Have my feet licked? Can be organised. Baby-oil wrestling match? The club would have a fit…
The lifestyle has made us free to talk about and do things that the rest of society frowns upon. The point is that I do not have “That one thing” that I would absolutely not do. I am free to discuss and learn about all the wonderfully kinky things that people do and why they do it. My kinkiest kink is not the kinkiest but it might be kinkier than most and that’s fine. I do not have to hide it or go enjoy it in total secret or not fantasize because I am “sick” (the worst thing you can say to someone who shares his/her kink with you. (Besides using parenthesis in parenthesis)). I have many things that I would not do… Now… Perhaps someday I’d reconsider.
It turns out that the Vanilla’s “one thing” was Anal. Yup :-)
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